But how do you know when it’s something more? When should you reach out for help? The Lactation Network is passionate about helping parents get through postpartum ups, downs, and everything in between. The information below can help you understand what’s typical and when it might be time to seek additional support for yourself or a loved one.

Baby blues vs PPD

The “baby blues” are common — about 80% of new parents experience them. You might feel teary for no reason, irritable, or just off. But baby blues tend to peak around day four or five postpartum and resolve within two weeks.

Postpartum depression (PPD) is different than baby blues. It’s a persistent, heavy fog that can make you feel disconnected from your baby, overwhelmed by guilt, or like you’re failing. PPD can also show up as rage, numbness, or extreme anxiety.

If your postpartum depression, intrusive thoughts or other symptoms linger beyond two weeks, worsen, or make it hard to function, it’s time to seek support.

How an IBCLC can support you beyond breastfeeding

International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) do much more than just troubleshoot latch issues. IBCLCs spend time with new parents in some of their most vulnerable moments, and they’re trained to recognize when something seems off.

While an IBCLC cannot diagnose patients, they can help you identify when your emotions or mental state may need professional attention and refer out to the appropriate provider and connect you with resources. If breastfeeding feels overwhelming, triggering, or impossible due to postpartum mental health, as the only medical professionals that focus on both mother and baby, IBCLCs can help navigate feeding solutions that support both you and your baby creating a harmonious feeding relationship.

The postpartum mental health spectrum

Postpartum mental health conditions exist on a spectrum, and they don’t always look like what you expect. Here’s a breakdown of common ones:

Postpartum Anxiety (PPA)

Common PPA symptoms include:

• Constant worrying, often about baby’s safety
• Racing thoughts, inability to relax
• Physical symptoms like nausea, dizziness, or rapid heartbeat
• Difficulty sleeping even when baby is asleep

When to seek help: If your worries are relentless, irrational, or preventing you from functioning, reach out to a healthcare provider.

Postpartum Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (PPOCD)

Common PPOCD symptoms are:

• Intrusive, unwanted thoughts (often about harm coming to baby)
• Compulsions or rituals to “prevent” bad things from happening
• Extreme distress over these thoughts

When to seek help: If these thoughts feel overwhelming, repetitive, or are interfering with daily life, seek support immediately.

Postpartum Depression (PPD)

Common PPD symptoms include:

• Persistent sadness, numbness, or hopelessness
• Irritability or unexplained rage
• Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy
• Feeling like your baby would be better off without you

When to seek help: If you have thoughts of self-harm, harming your baby, or feel unable to function, seek immediate professional help.

Postpartum Psychosis (PPP) (RARE, but critical and should be taken seriously)

Common PPP symptoms are:

• Hallucinations or delusions
• Extreme paranoia or confusion
• Disconnection from reality

When to seek help: Immediately. Postpartum psychosis is a medical emergency and requires urgent care.

Most importantly, it’s critical to know that you’re not alone and that seeking help is a sign of strength. Postpartum mental health struggles are common, treatable, and not a reflection of your ability to parent.

If something feels off for you or your partner, family or friend, trust yourself and reach out. Whether it’s your IBCLC, OB-GYN, midwife, therapist, or a trusted friend, there is mental health support available. Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint — and you deserve to feel strong, supported, and healthy along the way!

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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If you’ve ever set a goal for yourself, whether personally or professionally, you know how difficult it can be to stay focused on the positive outcome you’ve envisioned when times get tough. And you also know the value that a supportive team can bring. Every new parent needs a village for breastfeeding support, and the partner is often a key part of that team. Yet few people focus on how to prepare the partner of a breastfeeding parent to be an effective, educated resource. 

Of course, it’s hard to communicate the enormity of what it takes to care for a child before you’re actually tasked with doing so. Parenting is as challenging as it is rewarding, and learning how to feed your baby is a key milestone in the parenting journey. In fact, the 2023 TLN Breastfeeding Sentiment Snapshot found that nursing helped parents feel more empowered and more connected to their babies. Breastfeeding isn’t just about feeding: It sets the stage for the bond between a new parent and their child. An empowered partner, in turn, helps to empower and nurture that bond. 

The crucial role of partners in breastfeeding support 

Traditionally, breastfeeding support from a partner has been understood as one simple task — make a bottle for the baby so that the lactating parent can rest. But just as breastfeeding is much more than just nutrition for your baby, partners provide so much more than an extra set of hands. So when we talk about breastfeeding support, it isn’t about finding the right pump, the right accessories, or the right nursing bra. It’s not even about finding the right breastfeeding position. What many lactating parents are unprepared for is the physical, mental, and emotional toll of feeding a new baby. That’s where a partner can step in to care for the lactating parent in emotional as well as practical ways. 

Here are five ways that family members can help breastfeeding parents — during the postpartum period and beyond: 

Educate yourself on lactation and breastfeeding

Breastfeeding is natural, but it doesn’t always come naturally. Mastering this new skill involves familiarizing yourself with the breastfeeding language, terminology, and tools that nursing parents use. You can look into lactation resources for parents well before your partner’s due date. Specifically, you may want to learn about the benefits of breastfeeding, what to expect in the first few weeks postpartum, and breast milk guidelines for safe storage. Consider enrolling in a class for new parents, booking a consultation with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), or checking out the location of nearby lactation support groups.

Be prepared to navigate the unexpected

A newborn baby needs to be fed, on average, between 10 and 12 times a day. That can be both time-consuming and physically demanding — which many parents expect. But you may also find breastfeeding to be socially, politically, economically, and emotionally charged. If you’re prepared to deal with the opinions of others as you navigate the lactation learning curve, you’ll be in a better position to support both your partner and child.

Be physically and emotionally supportive

Of course, there are times when the best thing you can do is give your partner a little extra sleep or some hands-on help. While that’s a major benefit, you can also keep an eye out for any mood changes or concerns in the birthing parent. They may not recognize or feel comfortable naming the symptoms of postpartum depression. As someone who knows them well, you can ensure that they get medical treatment and postpartum depression support if the need arises.

Know what resources are available to you and your partner

As new parents, you and your partner will have your hands full. It’ll be easy for anything that’s not right in front of you to fall by the wayside. While you’re doing your pre-baby lactation homework, it’s a good idea to look into the breastfeeding resources available to you and your partner. You can also schedule a consultation with an IBCLC and familiarize yourself with the kinds of challenges they can help with after delivery.

Start having conversations about your breastfeeding support plan well before birth 

Naturally, you don’t have to actually feed the baby until the baby arrives — but that doesn’t mean you can’t put the time before that to use. In fact, starting early is a key factor in success. A 2017 study found that, along with a supportive partner, prenatal education was the strongest predictor of a successful breastfeeding relationship. If you’re unsure where to start, you can schedule an insurance-covered lactation consultation (often for an in-home care consult!) with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) prior to delivery. You and your partner can create a plan together to help with any postpartum needs. This could include feeding, caring for any other children you may have, or making a plan to return to work. 

Feeding and milk production are important — but they’re not the only part of welcoming a new child into the family. Because these tasks make up such a large part of those early postpartum days, it can be easy for the non-birthing parent to take a backseat. But an empowered, educated partner is an invaluable support to their breastfeeding partner — and an irreplaceable part of setting the family up for success.

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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Many people take a variety of prescription and over-the-counter medications without thinking much about it at all. But during lactation, parents are often hyperaware of what they eat and drink, worried about its potential impact on their child. That can make treating even everyday conditions a source of concern.  

The truth is that many medications find their way into your breast milk to some degree or another, but it may not be a concern for breastfeeding. And just as adults can react differently to medications, the impact on your baby can vary greatly. Although many medications are compatible with breastfeeding, it’s not possible to determine how a particular medication will affect your milk or your child without speaking to a medical professional. Lactating parents should consult with their doctor for advice when taking any medication while breastfeeding (both over-the-counter and prescription). 

Is (insert medicine here) safe or not?

What happens if you are in an emergency or stranded on the sofa with the flu? Do you need to book a doctor’s appointment every allergy season? And do you need to stop breastfeeding because you’re sick? (The answer is usually “no,” by the way.) 

For quick or emergency reference to preliminary information before speaking to your doctor, parents can use the Drugs and Lactation Database (LactMed®), which is maintained by the National Library of Medicine (NLM). This resource alphabetizes a staggering number of substances (both prescription and OTC medications). Each listing contains a summary of the drug’s impact during lactation, along with any adverse effects that you might ask your doctor about. 

If the information online feels confusing or contradictory, parents can also reach out to the InfantRisk hotline at 1-806-352-2519. InfantRisk maintains a listing of medications and their potential effects during pregnancy and breastfeeding. Parents can access this information through the site, or through MommyMeds (Infant Risk’s app for patients).  

To get you started, here are some additional notes that may be helpful: 

Cold and flu medications

Despite the common myth that all cough and cold medicines are off the table while breastfeeding, many are actually considered to be safe.  

If you’re concerned about safety, or if your favorite sore throat medicine isn’t cleared for use during breastfeeding, natural remedies can be an effective way to manage your symptoms. KellyMom has a comprehensive list of ways to treat colds and coughs without medicine while breastfeeding. 

Allergy medicine

Try a nasal spray or a saline rinse. An International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) can help you keep an eye on your milk supply — and ensure your baby is well-fed as you treat your allergies. 

Mental health and other prescription medications 

Whether for a mental health or physical health condition, it’s very important not to stop taking any medication that has been prescribed without first speaking to a doctor. If your doctor tells you to take something, it’s because the benefits are considered greater than the risks. Avoid making assumptions or self-medicating, even when it comes to OTC drugs, supplements, and information you’ve found online.  

That said, many common treatments for anxiety, depression, asthma, high blood pressure, and even immunizations are considered safe for lactating parents. Before starting or stopping any treatment, check in with your doctor. 

Communicating with your doctor is key

Answering questions about breastfeeding and medication can feel like navigating a labyrinth. The key to this maze? Open, transparent dialogue with your healthcare provider. It’s absolutely critical to mention that you’re nursing when discussing any health concerns or treatment options. Don’t hold back on expressing your worries about the potential impact of medications on your newborn. Including them in your decisions ensures that you always have the most up-to-date information for you and your little one. 

If you’re not sure where to start, IBCLCs can provide resources and preliminary information before speaking to your doctor, and help you determine which questions to ask. You can request a consultation here. 

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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No, you won’t be pregnant for twelve months (although sometimes it feels like it!). The fourth trimester is a nickname given to the time immediately postpartum. And although the birthing parent isn’t pregnant anymore, this phase is crucial to both parent and child development. Keep reading for the ins and outs of what the fourth trimester is, why it matters, and what to expect in those precious early days with your baby.

What is the fourth trimester?

The fourth trimester of pregnancy actually doesn’t refer to pregnancy at all, but to the twelve-week period right after delivery. It’s called a “fourth trimester” because during this time, your baby is still adapting to life outside of the womb. During this adjustment period, infants will need a lot of close physical contact with their parents.  

This theory originated from Dr. Harvey Karp in 2002 as a way of explaining and understanding the needs of human infants after birth. The idea is that (in order to allow our heads and their relatively large brains to pass through the birth canal) humans are born about three months early. And that makes sense. After all, we’re much less capable at birth than, say, horses — who can gallop about 24 hours after they’re born. By contrast, it takes human babies an average of 12 months to take their first steps. 

In order to provide the most comforting and supportive environment for a new baby, Karp recommends recreating the womb as much as you can. That means soft and varied noise, gently restricted movement, and staying as close to the mother’s body as possible. 

When does the 4th trimester end?

The fourth trimester runs for 12 weeks, or until your child is about three months old. After that time, you’ll likely start to see clear signs that your baby is starting to make their way out of the newborn phase and start engaging with the world around them. You’ll notice them beginning to lift their head, turning toward sounds, smiling, showing preferences for certain people, and even starting to coo. 

Of course, every baby is different and hits these milestones at different times. Pediatric appointments are usually scheduled at regular intervals throughout the fourth trimester. Working with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) can help you ensure your child is gaining enough weight and that your feeding routine is working well for both of you. If you have any concerns about your child’s development, don’t hesitate to reach out to a professional for support. 

What does the fourth trimester mean for parents?

Although the term “fourth trimester” refers to the baby’s development, it also kind of alludes to another three months of pregnancy — a good reminder that both parents and babies learn to navigate this new stage of life together. The parent’s (and family’s) development is no less important than the child’s. And this can be extremely helpful for parents to keep in mind, especially if they don’t know what to expect postpartum.  

During this time, new parents aren’t just getting used to caring for a child. Their bodies are going through a recovery process. The resulting physical discomfort and hormonal changes can trigger a rollercoaster of emotions. These might include anxiety after childbirth or difficulty bonding with your child. A new parent can feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and sad. All of this is normal and pretty common. But that doesn’t mean that you have to go through it alone.  

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 1 in 8 mothers experience postpartum depression. If you’re feeling the baby blues persistently, you can and should reach out for immediate support or receive more information from Postpartum Support International as a useful resource. Your mental health is a vital part of your overall well-being, and having trusted resources for medical care is a key part of building your support system.  

When should I see my IBCLC, doctor, or midwife?

Seeking help when needed is a sign of strength, and it’s the best way to ensure your entire family’s well-being. Here’s a list of some moments when it may be helpful to reach out for additional support:

Postpartum visits 

Typically, the birthing parent will have a postpartum checkup at 6 weeks after delivery. This is a great time to check in with your doctor about how your recovery is going. You can ask for an appointment sooner, or a second postpartum visit if new questions arise. 

Mental health and well-being

Your doctor will ask questions related to your mental health after pregnancy. These are designed to screen for any postpartum mental health disorders, like postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety. It’s a good idea to be honest about how you’re feeling and any concerns you may have. Your medical team is genuinely interested in your well-being, and they’ll want to know if you’re feeling down or anxious after birth. There are many ways that a professional can treat postpartum mental health conditions — but they won’t be able to help unless you let them know how you feel. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing with your doctor, you should find a therapist you feel safe with.

Starting a new routine

Your body has just been through a major event, and it needs time and care to heal. Postpartum recovery exercises are also an important part of the fourth trimester. Gentle exercises and movements, such as pelvic floor exercises and gentle stretching, can aid in the healing process. Of course, you’ll want to check in with your healthcare provider before starting an exercise routine. 

IBCLCs can help you navigate other shifts to your routine, like returning to work. If you’re worried about maintaining your milk supply while being away from your little one, set up a consultation. 

When to see an IBCLC

One thing that surprises many new parents is that breastfeeding — often referred to as “the most natural thing in the world” — doesn’t come easily to many parents or babies. Like any new skill, breastfeeding has to be learned. And that generally comes with some early frustrations, fumbles, and discomfort. These can be compounded when you’re unsure of where to go for help, or convinced that you should “know what you’re doing” in the first place. 

Reaching out for lactation care doesn’t have to be stressful or expensive. Many parents can qualify for free or low-cost lactation support through their health insurance plans. Once they reach out for a free consultation, TLN handles the back-and-forth with insurance, so that nursing parents have one less thing to worry about — and can focus on caring for their families.  

An IBCLC works with you and your child to help meet your feeding goals. An IBCLC plays an important and singular role. IBCLCs are the highest accredited healthcare professionals specializing in lactation and function as a bridge between obstetricians and parents as well as pediatricians and babies — caring for both parent and child during a really challenging, vulnerable time. 

While there are many benefits to breastfeeding, one of the most important is the relationship it builds between the parent and child — and IBCLCs play a vital role in empowering that relationship. Here are a few common instances where meeting with an IBCLC is often helpful: 

Latching issues

One common challenge new parents face when it comes to breastfeeding is latching issues. It’s normal for you and your baby to need time to figure out the best positioning and technique for a good latch (that’s not painful!). An IBCLC can provide you with valuable tips and tricks to make this process less stressful for you and your baby. If there is a latching issue, they can help diagnose and work with you to remedy it. 

Low milk supply 

Low milk supply is a common concern that can create a lot of stress in new parents. It’s important to remember an important factor in establishing milk supply is supply and demand. If you or baby are removing breastmilk effectively from your breasts 8-12 times every 24 hours, your body will most likely establish a healthy milk supply. Low milk supply is often a perception issue. If you’re concerned about your milk supply, try contacting a lactation consultant about techniques and strategies to increase your supply.

Dealing with medical concerns  

IBCLCs can help you navigate both major and minor breastfeeding issues. This could include clogged ducts, mastitis, thrush, and cracked nipples — and unsurprisingly, a painful nursing experience is also likely to be a short one. An IBCLC can help you manage these concerns before they become a reason to give up on breastfeeding and pumping altogether.  

Self-care 

Breastfeeding is physically demanding and sometimes uncomfortable, especially in the early weeks. It’s important to take care of yourself during this time. Make sure you’re getting as much rest as possible, staying hydrated, and getting in three meals (or lots of snacks), and asking for support when needed. An IBCLC can help you identify what you need to stay healthy, comfortable, and empowered as you make the choices that make sense for your family.  

Dealing with advice overload  

Feeding your child is a necessity, and access to the care you need to do that is a human right. You may find, however, that the act of feeding your baby (however you do it) evokes strong opinions and emotions in others.  

Every breastfeeding journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Trusting your instincts and seeking support when needed can help you filter through the noise — and bring the focus back to what really matters.  

As you enter parenthood, it’s important to remember that the day your baby is born is truly just the beginning of the journey. And as the proverb goes, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” The period after birth is a time of immense change and adjustment as you navigate the new world of parenthood, and your personal and clinical support system will help you through. 

Understanding the fourth trimester — both what it looks like, and when to ask for help — is key to providing the best care for both you and your baby. 

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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It’s often said that it takes a village (read: community) to raise a child, and guess what? It’s true. When it comes to parenting, new parents don’t hear often enough that it’s perfectly okay to ask for help (no parent should shoulder postpartum concerns alone). Between trying to feed, bathe, soothe, and bond with your new baby, it’s important to remember that you’re only one person. Don’t be afraid to lean on your village — the folks who surround your family, like friends, relatives, and neighbors — for support in providing all the love and care you and your baby need.

Here’s why your village is such an important resource for your family (and your physical and mental health!), as well as a few ideas on how you can widen your support network.

Benefits of utilizing your village

It’s easy to see why so many parents feel pressure to take on all the parenting tasks themselves, but we’re here to reassure you that you don’t have to. Giving birth and being a parent is powerful, amazing, and stressful, and you don’t have to do it all alone. To put the crucial benefits of leaning on people in your village into perspective, think of it this way: When you’re on an airplane, flight attendants tell parents to put the oxygen mask on themselves first — that’s because you can’t care for your little one if you’re totally out of breath. The village is your oxygen mask, ensuring you always have the back-up and helping hands you need so your baby has what they need. 

How to build your village

Perhaps one of the biggest challenges parents face is allowing themselves to show vulnerability in asking for help. No one wants to feel like they are failing or showing weakness, but that’s not the case at all! It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out to the people in your life for a helping hand — whether it’s for babysitting, getting some me-time, or seeking advice from a fellow parent. There’s no shame in using all your available resources to care for yourself and your newborn, so don’t let guilt hold you back.

Plus, with a new baby around, people will be eager to offer a hand where they can. The challenge for you is to accept the offer and let go of the knee-jerk reaction to say, “I’m good, thanks though!” Get in the habit of saying “yes.” Can I bring you dinner? Yes. Can I watch your toddler for the afternoon? Yes. Can I pick you up a coffee? Heck. Yes.

“Building a village means nurturing relationships so that you have people to turn to for support,” says Florence Ann Romano, a childcare expert and former nanny. “As you develop your village, you will have moments where you want or need support from an understanding adult. Practice vulnerability and ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness, and your child will only be surrounded by more love because of it.”

Building your village can include leaning on your friends and family, getting to know other local parents who live near you, and taking part in group activities where you’ll meet other parents. In general, it’s about not being afraid to put yourself out there. Chatting up parents at the park, swimming lessons, or breastfeeding class can open up so many helpful doors, and you may meet a new parent friend who could use your help, too. 

Your village members can also consist of outside resources who specialize in baby care, like a night nurse, postpartum doula, babysitter, or nanny. Even if you’re a stay-at-home parent or you work from home, an in-house babysitter or nanny can make all the difference when it comes to helping with a newborn baby. 

Night nurse

Night nurses are on the expensive side and can cost as much as $30-70 per hour depending on the geographic location. However, they’re not needed forever and can help guide parents through those early stressful nights, while giving you time to rest, too.

Doula

Doulas are an incredible resource during pregnancy, birth, and postpartum, helping with everything from emotional and physical health to feedings, bonding, and more. They’re different from a nanny, because they are really there to take care of YOU and provide essential support, knowledge, and guidance, according to the American Pregnancy Association. A typical range for a postpartum doula is between $20-50 an hour, depending on their qualifications, experience, and other factors — making them an affordable option for a variety of families.

Babysitter

Babysitters are there to step in and assist with childcare in a number of forms, even if it’s for an hour or two a day. They can work full time, part time, or pitch in on an as-needed basis — whatever works for you and your family. Care.com’s suggested pay rates for babysitters calculator is a super-handy tool that will help you determine a fair price based on factors like location, experience, number of children, and hours per week. Rates typically fall under $20 per hour but will vary.

Nanny

Nannies work by acting as an extension of the parent, covering a number of childcare needs. They can help with taking your baby to a doctor’s appointment, preparing meals, facilitating bath time, and many other crucial tasks. According to Romano, those same factors should also come into play when determining a nanny’s pay. The cost will increase or decrease depending on you and your baby’s needs, so she recommends coming to an agreement on price before committing to a nanny. 

Daycare

Daycare is a great option for parents looking for help Monday through Friday with a fairly set schedule for drop-off and pick-up times. With multiple caregivers on hand — most of whom have a background in child development and early education — there will most likely always be someone there, so worrying about coverage isn’t an issue. Plus, with most daycare options, children are separated by age group so you can ensure your little one is getting the care and attention they deserve. According to Care.com, the average family will spend about $321 a week on daycare (as of 2024).

No matter which options you choose, don’t be afraid to start building your postpartum community and village now. There’s also no question too small for you to bring to your expert clinical breastfeeding expert: An International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). They’ll provide insurance-covered breastfeeding support, often in the comfort of your home. You deserve every bit of help and care, and your network (and IBCLC!) will be happy to provide it!  

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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According to Harvard Medical School and the Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) Center for Women’s Mental Health, postpartum blues or baby blues affect 50-85% of all parents who give birth. Still, the symptoms of postpartum blues — namely mood changes, tearfulness, anxiety, and irritability — often catch new parents by surprise, leading many people to wonder if they are experiencing the blues or a more serious mental health issue like postpartum depression. Read on to learn about baby blues, postpartum depression, and the importance of addressing your mental health without shame. 

What are baby blues?

Baby blues are considered a common postpartum symptom, not a psychiatric disorder. Peaking on the fourth or fifth day post-delivery, the blues may last for a few days, but they usually go away on their own, and they should not interfere with your ability to care for yourself and your baby. 

If baby blues symptoms persist for longer than two weeks, however, you should call your doctor to rule out a more serious case of depression, especially if you have a history of depression or bipolar disorder.

What causes baby blues?

Here are a few factors that may lead to postpartum blues:

Extreme hormone changes

During pregnancy, your estrogen and progesterone levels skyrocket. Then, within 24 hours of giving birth, your sex hormone levels plummet back to their pre-pregnancy state, and your lactation hormones — prolactin and oxytocin — rise rapidly. 

All these shifting hormones dramatically transform the chemical makeup of your brain and body in a very short time frame, which can intensify emotions.

Loss of identity

When you have a baby — especially your first child — you go from being independent and having agency over your life choices… to being beholden to a tiny, crying human’s every need and whim. In our culture, we often don’t give new parents enough space to grieve that loss, but it is a loss.

Less sleep

We get it: Waking up every couple of hours to feed your baby can leave you feeling depleted, disoriented, and grumpy. Simply put, sleep deprivation messes with your mood, and adjusting to a new schedule takes time.

New routine

As a new parent, the self-care practices that once kept you sane may not fit into your day right now. This can throw your whole demeanor out of whack, especially in the early days of your child’s life.

Coping with postpartum blues

Just because postpartum blues are common and understandable doesn’t mean you should have to suffer through them! Try these simple, supportive tools to get you through this rough patch:

• Remind yourself that what you’re feeling is normal, natural, and nothing to be ashamed of.
• Cut yourself extra slack with housework and chores: You just had a baby; no one expects you or your home to be presentable!
• Talk about your feelings with a loved one, or connect to other new parents who understand.
• Prioritize sleep however and whenever you can, whether that means having a family member hold your baby so you can take a quick nap or sleeping when your baby sleeps.
• Limit visitors and overwhelming situations.
• Try to eat regularly and make sure you’re consuming a variety of nutrient-rich foods to support your recovering body and provide additional calories for milk production needs.

Postpartum blues versus postpartum depression

Remember, baby blues do not last longer than approximately two weeks, and symptoms are milder. When you have postpartum blues, you can still function and take care of your baby.

Postpartum depression — which affects between 10-15% of postpartum parents — does not go away on its own, and symptoms are usually more intense. Anger, restlessness, excessive crying, decreased appetite, low energy, insomnia, feelings of worthlessness and disconnection from your life, withdrawing from loved ones, racing thoughts, and suicidal ideation are the grave, urgent symptoms associated with postpartum depression. If you are having suicidal thoughts, contact one of these organizations for emergency support. If you or a loved one is in immediate danger, call 911 right away.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE

National Postpartum Depression Warmline: 1-800-PPD-MOMS

Postpartum Support International Directory: 1-800-944-4773

Getting help for postpartum depression

If you or your International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) believe you are experiencing postpartum depression symptoms, call your doctor right away. Even if you’re still within the two-week time frame where you might have baby blues — call anyway. You know yourself best, and it’s vital that you receive the mental health care you need during this time. Postpartum depression is common, and it’s your doctor’s job to help you  access the treatment options necessary to feel better, whether through therapy or medication.

It’s crucial to learn the difference between postpartum blues and postpartum depression and seek medical care if you suspect a postpartum mood disorder. No matter which mental and emotional changes you face as a new parent, there is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. You can’t be a perfect parent, but you can be an excellent example of someone who takes vigilant care of their mental health.

*Illustrations by Jesse Zhang

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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The reality is up to 25% of new parents (both birthing and non-gestational parents) experience some type of PMAD (Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorder). We aim to clarify and destigmatize the spectrum of postpartum psychiatric disorders and equip you with resources on how to care for your own postpartum mental health — because caregivers also require care.

Postpartum illness overview

According to Harvard Medical School and the Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) Center for Women’s Mental Health, postpartum psychiatric illness includes the postpartum blues or baby blues, postpartum depression and anxiety, and — the most severe — postpartum psychosis or puerperal psychosis. The blues are the most common, the mildest, and the most short-lived. However, 10-15% of postpartum parents develop more serious depression and anxiety symptoms, and 1-2 out of every 1,000 parents who give birth develop postpartum psychosis, “a psychiatric emergency that typically requires inpatient treatment.” These symptoms go much further than common concerns and worries about new parenthood. Affecting only about 0.15% of parents, postpartum psychosis is statistically rare. However, given that 385,000 babies are born each day around the globe, between 385-770 postpartum parents experience this crisis every single day.

What causes perinatal mood and anxiety disorders?

Like most body changes surrounding pregnancy and childbirth, postpartum blues, or postpartum psychiatric disorders are caused by rapidly shifting hormones. According to Harvard Medical School/MGH, “within the first 48 hours after delivery, estrogen and progesterone concentrations fall dramatically.” In some people, this drop in hormone levels can drastically impact well-being.

Who is at risk?

“Some investigators hypothesize that there is a subgroup of people who are particularly sensitive to the hormonal changes that take place after delivery. This population of women may be more vulnerable to PPD and to other hormonally driven mood disturbances, such as those occurring during the premenstrual phase of the menstrual cycle or during the perimenopause,” Harvard Medical School/MGH explains. People with a history of depression or bipolar disorder are also in the high-risk group. Beyond brain chemistry, stress and the lack of a solid support system also increase a new parent’s vulnerability to postpartum psychiatric illness.

Clinical PMAD conditions are caused by many other nuances, and risk factors can be:

• A personal or family history of mental health conditions, like depression, anxiety, perinatal depression, bipolar, or OCD.
• Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD or PMS)
• Inadequate support in caring for the baby
• Financial stress
• Lack of partner support
• Lack of social support
• High levels of stress
• History of abuse
• Marital/relational stress
• Unplanned pregnancy
• Unwanted pregnancy
• Complications in pregnancy, birth, or lactation
• A major recent life event, including loss, moving or relocation, and job loss
• Pregnancy and/or infant loss
• Parents of multiples
• Having an infant(s) in the Neonatal Intensive Care (NICU)
• Fertility challenges
• Thyroid imbalance
• Any form of diabetes (type 1, type 2, or gestational)

In addition, belonging to a high-stress parenting group may also be a risk factor. These groups might include:

• Queer and trans families
• Military families
• Teen parents
• Parent(s) of multiples
• Single parents
• Parents of color
• Those who experience a pregnancy and/or infant loss

Harvard Medical School/MGH makes it clear, though, that all postpartum parents are vulnerable, regardless of age, marital status, education level, or socioeconomic status.

Treatment for postpartum illness

Treatment is based on the severity and type of symptoms present, and medical causes for mood disturbance (like thyroid dysfunction) need to be ruled out before psychiatric treatment is prescribed. Harvard Medical School/MGH also notes that parents “who plan to breastfeed must be informed that all psychotropic medications, including antidepressants, are secreted into the breast milk.” Many medications for postpartum mental health have been studied and deemed safe for breastfeeding parents to take while breastfeeding, as the levels at which they are secreted into breastmilk vary and some are considered safe choices versus others. Talk to your doctor and International Board Certified Lactation Consultant about your options when it comes to psychiatric medication and breastfeeding.

Postpartum blues or baby blues

50-85% of postpartum parents experience the blues during the first few weeks post-delivery. As Harvard Medical School/MGH reports, “Rather than feelings of sadness, women with the blues more commonly report mood lability (changes), tearfulness, anxiety, or irritability.” Symptoms usually peak on the fourth or fifth day post-delivery and may last for a few days. While it can feel unsettling to experience the blues when you have a new baby to take care of, these symptoms should not interfere with your ability to function and no specific treatment is required. If symptoms persist for longer than two weeks, however, you should call your doctor to rule out a more serious case of depression — especially if you have a history of depression.

Postpartum depression (PPD)

PPD typically emerges during the first 2-3 postpartum months, but may occur at any point after delivery. Harvard Medical School/MGH cites that some parents even experience the onset of milder depressive symptoms while pregnant. Symptoms include tearfulness, loss of interest in usual activities, change in appetite, and sleep disturbance. Harvard Medical School/MGH notes that diagnosing PPD can be confusing because, “many of the symptoms used to diagnose depression (i.e., sleep and appetite disturbance, fatigue) also occur in postpartum women in the absence of depression.” More obvious and severe symptoms include feelings of worthlessness and suicidal thoughts. If you are experiencing postpartum suicidal thoughts, please seek immediate support from one of the following organizations:

Postpartum Support International: 1-800-944-4773
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE
National Postpartum Depression Warmline: 1-800-PPD-MOMS

Your well-being is paramount, and you are not alone.

Postpartum anxiety

Generalized anxiety in postpartum parents is common — after all, you are learning how to care for a brand-new human. But Harvard Medical School/MGH states that some new parents also experience panic attacks and hypochondriasis (illness anxiety disorder). Furthermore, “recent studies show pregnancy and childbirth are frequently associated with the onset of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).” Oftentimes, postpartum anxiety is masked as postpartum depression or mistakenly classified as normal. But Harvard Medical School/MGH warns that “given the potential adverse effects of untreated mood and anxiety symptoms on both the mother and child, careful screening and early recognition of anxiety symptoms during the postpartum period is recommended.” If you’re experiencing postpartum anxiety symptoms, call your doctor today.

Postpartum psychosis or puerperal psychosis

The rarest and most severe form of postpartum psychiatric illness, postpartum psychosis or puerperal psychosis, can present as early as the first 48-72 hours after delivery, but commonly develops between the first two postpartum weeks. Symptoms most closely resemble a manic or mixed bipolar episode, and include restlessness, irritability, insomnia, rapidly shifting and extreme moods, confusion, and erratic behavior. For those who experience postpartum psychosis, hallucinations and risk of harm to oneself and one’s baby are high and must be addressed immediately. If you or a loved one is experiencing signs of postpartum psychosis, please contact 911 for immediate support.

If you or someone you love is experiencing postpartum psychiatric illness — whether mild or severe — please contact your doctor and IBCLC right away, and remember that resources are available 24/7 if you need immediate care. Your mental health is crucial, and there’s never shame in seeking support.

*Illustrations by Jesse Zhang

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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A common concern for new mothers and parents is that they’re not producing enough milk, but undersupply is actually uncommon.

Keep in mind that your baby won’t drink that much milk at first — with the small size of their growing tummies, newborns only need about a tablespoon of colostrum at a time. Still, it’s normal for babies to lose a bit of weight in the days after delivery. An International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) should be enlisted to evaluate should an infant lose more than 7% of their birth weight. Just make sure you’re nursing at least eight to 12 times within a 24-hour period. Not only will this get them the nutrient-rich colostrum, it will also help stimulate milk production.

Still, peace of mind with a newborn is everything. So while you might be tempted to use bottles in the early days to know exactly how much your baby is getting, there are other ways to put your mind at ease.

Here’s how to tell if your baby is getting enough breast milk.

Diaper duty

The number one sign that your baby is getting enough milk comes in their diapers. How many times they pee and poo in a day can tell you if they’re well-fed. Newborns under six weeks should have six or more wet diapers and three to four dirty diapers per day by the time they are four days old. Urine should appear pale and have only a very mild odor. After your baby has had a chance to poop out meconium, which is a thick, tarry substance that lines your baby’s intestines during pregnancy, their stools will transition to newborn poop, which is soft and yellow. Color and consistency matter! If your baby does not have consistent wet diapers, call your pediatrician or IBCLC right away.

Weight gain

One obvious sign of a baby getting enough (or too little) milk is by following their weight patterns. Babies typically lose a few ounces in the first week after birth — up to 10 percent of their birth weight — but should gain it back in 10 days to two weeks. If an infant loses more than 7% of their birth weight, they should be closely monitored by an appropriate lactation care provider. An IBCLC can provide a thorough feeding and transfer evaluation to support families if they are experiencing concerns with their baby’s weight gain.

In the first four months, a 5.5- to 8.5-ounce weight gain per week is normal. Since babies tend to grow in spurts rather than all at once, watching the growth curve over time is preferred. If you notice unusual changes, such as continued weight loss after the first two weeks, talk to your IBCLC and doctor.

How can I tell if my baby is hungry or wants comfort?

An infant will exhibit hunger cues to let a parent know when it’s time for a nursing session by: 

• Moving fists to mouth or sucks on hands
• Looking for your breast while being held (commonly known as rooting)
• Becoming more alert and active
• Opening and closing mouth frequently (lip smacking)

While crying is a sign of hunger, it’s a very late sign and indicates distress and frustration. It may also be more difficult to start breastfeeding and get a good latch when your baby is fussing, so watch out for earlier hunger cues and respond as soon as possible to help facilitate a better latch. If your baby becomes distressed, it is important to calm them before attempting a feed. Once full, your baby’s body language will relax, and they may fall asleep. This can be a great time for bonding between the parent and baby. 

What are some signs my baby isn’t getting enough breast milk?

1. If your baby continues to lose weight after the first few weeks. By 10 to 14 days old, your baby should be back to their birth weight. If this doesn’t happen, contact your healthcare provider and IBCLC.
2. If your baby is sleeping through expected feeding windows. Newborns sleep a lot — anywhere from sixteen to eighteen hours a day — but they also need to eat a lot and should be eager to nurse at appropriate intervals. If a newborn is sleeping through a feeding window (every 2-3 hours) or having low energy levels when awake and trying to feed, these may be signs of a baby who could struggle to transfer enough. Enlist the help of an IBCLC if this is the case.
3. If your baby doesn’t have regular bowel movements. Your baby should have three to four bowel movements per day within the first 4-5 days following birth. Also keep an eye on their urine: Very yellow or dark shades can be a sign of dehydration.

Contact an IBCLC

If you are concerned that your baby isn’t getting enough breast milk, the best way to answer questions you have related to your supply is to contact an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). These certified lactation experts and clinicians will determine if latching issues or your breastfeeding position are contributing to poor infant weight gain, they also may perform a weighted feed to determine exactly how much breast milk your little one takes in during a session and answer any other questions you may have. Breastfeeding is an essential process, and you can get multiple visits with an IBCLC covered by your insurance (often from the comfort of home), so schedule your consultation today!

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

The information in this article is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The content is made available with the understanding that The Lactation Network is not providing professional medical advice on a particular matter. Every family, parent, and care plan is unique—your MD and IBCLC can work with you to ensure you receive the evidence-based, personalized clinical care you deserve. Always consult your clinical team for medical guidance.

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Prepare to welcome your baby with our guide to breastfeeding a newborn during those first few days

There’s so much to think about when your baby first arrives, but nothing is as important as providing nourishment to your little one. In the first few days of breastfeeding, you may have questions like: How often should a newborn nurse? How long should my baby breastfeed? If you’re planning to feed your baby by breastfeeding or pumping, here are nine ways to establish your milk supply from day one and get breastfeeding off to the best possible start. 

#1 Embrace the Golden Hour

Evidence shows that the ideal first time to breastfeed a newborn is within the first hour of delivery. This is called the Golden Hour. Doing so will positively impact your milk supply in the days and weeks after birth. Thankfully, your baby should help you out with this. Because breast milk is so easy to digest, newborns should typically feel hungry often and breastfeed anywhere from eight to 12 times a day. To keep up with the production, give your baby access to breastfeeding around the clock as soon as you can after delivery. This will trigger your supply and give your baby much-needed colostrum—that nutrient-rich liquid gold that starts off your milk supply. If your little one is sleepy or disinterested, just keep trying to breastfeed. Remember that it’s not unusual for it to take several days for milk to come in. But if your baby is unavailable for nursing for medical reasons, try using a hospital-grade rental breast pump to start milk production. 

#2 Make Sure Your Baby Gets Colostrum

As mentioned above, colostrum supplies the nutrients your newborn needs at this early stage. Your colostrum, which began forming around week 16 of pregnancy, contains growth factors that are meant to reach the baby’s immature gastrointestinal tract in a certain order. These specialized cells “finish” what swallowing the amniotic fluid was beginning to do—help the gut grow and mature. Colostrum is very high in protective proteins and immunities, and since it comes in small quantities, it’s the ideal nutrition for your baby’s tiny tummy. When they are born, a baby’s stomach is about the size of a thimble and can only hold about a teaspoon, so even a few milliliters of colostrum is plenty. As long as your baby is peeing and pooping, you should be in good shape.

#3 Do Skin to Skin

There’s a ton of evidence that the perfect environment for the newborn is your bare chest—no bra or t-shirt allowed. Between feedings, this should be your default position in those early days. The amazing benefits of skin-to-skin contact include stabilizing an infant’s temperature, breathing, heart rate and blood sugar. Your baby will enter a blissful state of being and you’ll be pretty happy, too. Plus, great news—partners can (and should) participate in the skin-to-skin love, too.

#4 Don’t Set a Breastfeeding Schedule

Although you may be tempted to try to regulate your baby’s feeding routine, remember that the first two weeks are critical for establishing your breast milk supply. Unfortunately, this means that nursing can’t be scheduled because the cadence should simply follow your baby’s hunger cues—especially during those essential first two weeks. Don’t worry about over-nursing your baby; if your little one is showing any signs of hunger, such as sucking on their hands or actively looking for your breast, go ahead and nurse. Your baby’s body language will also help let you know when they’re full.

#5 Don’t Satisfy Hunger Cues with a Pacifier

It’s important to establish breastfeeding in the first few days of your baby’s life. Research shows that early pacifier use is associated with decreased breastfeeding. That’s why it’s important not to satisfy early hunger cues with sucking on a pacifier. Stick to pacifier use mostly after feedings if you feel comfortable. Of course, babies who needed to go to the NICU or have a painful procedure done immediately after birth may be soothed by sucking on a pacifier. 

#6 Give the Benefits of Breast Milk

Breastfeeding in the first days provides your baby with valuable benefits during this critical developmental stage, such as building their immune system with your antibodies and helping develop their digestive system. So keep breastfeeding even when it’s tough. Of course, many moms need a little extra support from trained lactation experts to meet their breastfeeding goals. If you have questions or experience challenges, engage with a lactation consultant for any extra support you need. Most insurance plans will cover a 90-minute in-person or virtual visit—and many even cover follow-up visits, as well. 

#7 Soak Up Baby Time

For the past 40 weeks or so, you and your baby have been a unit—this shouldn’t change in the days and weeks following delivery. Staying as close as possible to your baby during this time will help get your breast milk supply off to a great start. Accept help with laundry or cooking and surround yourself with  encouraging people—whether by phone or safely in person. But anyone who wants to take your newborn and hold them for hours, or questions the frequency or validity of your choice to provide milk—however you plan to do so—or makes you feel uncomfortable about nursing on demand should be kept far away, especially during this critical time.

#8 Ask For Support

No matter your method of delivery, you’ll need time afterward to rest, recover and snuggle in bed with your baby. Accept all pampering. Don’t feel pressure to invite over any guests you don’t want to and make sure those who do see you and your new baby follow all safety precautions. Your partner or support person can help keep away anyone you wouldn’t want to nurse in front of. Otherwise, stay in your jammies. Sleep when the baby does—or at least rest with your feet up and eyes closed if sleep isn’t possible. The moments where your little one isn’t nursing will be few and far between especially in the first days of breastfeeding, so take advantage of them when you can.

#9 Connect with a Lactation Expert

An International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) can help you figure out everything about breastfeeding a newborn, from the best techniques to get a great latch to how to position your baby while nursing to troubleshooting common breast milk supply issues and more. Remember that it takes time to get the hang of breastfeeding, and you may be sore at first. Although breastfeeding is a natural process, it doesn’t necessarily come naturally for all moms. That’s why lactation consultants exist—to help make sure moms feel ready and good about breastfeeding and to guide them through any rough patches. Our sister company, the Lactation Network, is a great resource to use when finding an IBCLC. Request a consultation to be connected with an expert in your area for an in-person or virtual insurance-covered lactation consultation.

Another great way to help to establish and maintain breast milk supply to nourish your newborn? A breast pump. We have pump options that can work for your lifestyle through our trusted marketplace partners. Request a consultation from an IBCLC to find the best pump for you.

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It’s completely normal to feel nervous about parenthood, especially with so much uncertainty in the world. With all the new experiences that come with pregnancy and preparing for your baby to arrive, new parents have a lot to navigate. To give you some peace of mind, we’ve rounded up tried-and-true advice and solutions to common first-time parent fears.

1. What do I do if I’m scared of having a baby?

If fears about giving birth are keeping you up at night, it may help to go into the experience with a little more preparation. Developing a birth plan and a breastfeeding plan with your obstetrician or midwife may help you mentally prepare for delivery day and note your goals all in one place. Be sure to go over these plans with your partner, another family member, or anyone who may be supporting you during labor such as a partner, friend, family member, or doula. Even if you have personal labor support in the form of a partner, friend, or family member, we suggest enlisting the support of a doula.

The research is astounding on doula support for improving health outcomes and breastfeeding initiation rates, and these professionals provide emotional and physical support during birth and the postpartum period to parents and families. With doctors, midwives, and nurses going in and out of the delivery room while you’re in labor, it can help to have a professional who is constantly at your side, ready to advocate for you and reassure you when you need it.

If you’re still experiencing anxiety about giving birth, remember, people have been delivering babies since before hospitals existed. Share your worries with your healthcare provider, therapist, or closest friend, and try focusing on all the things that can go right, like your new baby blinking up at you for the first time. Everyone needs a village.

2. What should I put on my baby registry?

Some of the items you will need as a new parent include: An infant carrier, a car seat, a beside-the-bed bassinet, and a baby monitor, as well as newborn clothing, burp cloths, bibs, and diapers. Take a look at our top baby-registry picks and this list of our favorite breastfeeding supplies for more ideas.

3. What if the baby comes before I have everything ready?

Sometimes babies surprise us! If you don’t have everything ready when labor begins, don’t stress. Ask a friend or family member to help shop for last-minute baby items or assemble nursery furniture. Enlist a helper to install the infant car seat after delivery so you can bring the baby home. While nesting is a real thing, all that washing and organizing and prepping doesn’t have to happen before your baby’s born. And for anything you really need at the last minute once you’re home, there’s always pickup at Target, Walmart and Buy Buy Baby.

4. What if breastfeeding is hard?

Breastfeeding is a skill that must be learned just like any other! If you’ve decided to breastfeed your baby, there are lots of resources available to make sure you feel supported along the way.

Our best piece of advice for calming this fear: Schedule a consultation with an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), who can troubleshoot any breastfeeding issues, holistically evaluate the nuances of your individual situation for both you and baby, show you different breastfeeding positions, and help you get your pump set up and teach you how to use it. These experts can also answer any other questions you have about breastfeeding and provide extra support. And if you need to supplement your feeding plan, let go of guilt. IBCLCs provide unbiased support to meet you where you are in your journey. They ensure you have the education, support, and advocacy to make the best decisions for you and your baby on your journey. You’re taking care of your baby and that makes you an amazing parent.

5. What is the best breast pump for me?

To start, it is important to find what kind of breast pump best fits your needs and lifestyle. Will you be pumping at work or at home? Do you plan to pump exclusively? Do you prefer a subtle, quiet option that you can use on the go? Then, read about some of the best breast pump options for stay-at-home parents, working parents, and more.

6. What if my relationship changes after the baby comes?

As with any big life change, having a baby can impact your relationship with your partner — in both good and bad ways. It can be incredible to see your significant other take on their new role as a parent. Enlisting your partner’s support and sharing the responsibilities when you’re breastfeeding also helps both parents be involved from the start.

Of course, in the midst of sleep deprivation and figuring out your newborn, it’s not always easy. Give each other grace, work as a team, and know you’ll sometimes have different ideas on parenting. To keep your relationship strong, schedule time together — quality time at home, date nights, even sex. Small gestures, like snuggling, a smile, a hug, or just talking about things other than the baby also go a long way.

7. What if I miss my life before becoming a parent?

Becoming a parent is a huge life change in so many ways, big and small. From bringing a new member of your family home to learning new routines to adjusting to and managing the changes in your own body, there’s a lot to get used to and figure out. Asking for the support you need from your partner, friends, and family during those first few weeks with your newborn will help you adjust to being a parent. You’ll likely enjoy this special bonding time too. While there may be moments you miss how things used to be, once you have your new baby in your arms, you’ll likely see the whole world and your place in it differently.

Keep in mind that hormone fluctuations may contribute to feelings of sadness, known as the baby blues, during the first two weeks after birth. It’s completely normal — even common — and should pass on its own. However, if you find yourself struggling or facing signs of prenatal or postpartum depression and anxiety, there’s no shame in asking for help. Having a baby causes big hormonal changes in your body that can sometimes affect mood. Talk to your partner and medical provider about your feelings and make plans together. Then, give your insurance provider a call to ask for guidance about postpartum mental health services so they can help you select an in-network provider, whether a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), or something else. Explore your options and make getting the support you need a top priority.

8. What if I don’t love my postpartum body?

It takes more than a few weeks for your body to recover from pregnancy and delivery — and during that time, it’s important to let your body heal. It took nine months for you to grow a whole human, so expect that changes may take some time. Your body may be different, but it’s still amazing, powerful, and worthy of grace. If you are breastfeeding, focus on eating nutritious foods and drinking water as your body works hard to produce breast milk for your little one.

When you’re ready for exercise, start small and ease into it. If you used to hit the gym regularly, remember to take it slow when building up to a familiar routine. Taking a postnatal fitness class in person or online or joining a group of new moms and parents with similar goals may help you develop an exercise plan that’s healthy for postpartum parents. A final tip on this front: Focus on easing back into a routine as you recover.

9. How do I know I’m doing the right thing?

We’ll let you in on a secret: No parent knows what they’re doing all the time. We all push past new-parent anxiety and just do our best. No matter how much you read about parenting or talk to other parents, motherhood is still a learning process. Discuss your fears with your partner, friends, family, or IBCLC. Let go of the pressure to do, know, and be everything.

Also remember that what works for one family may not work for yours. Resist the urge to compare yourself to other parents, especially those whose social media accounts make parenting and motherhood look like a breeze. Instead, you should give yourself more credit and trust your instincts — you know your baby best. And don’t forget to celebrate your wins. Those little (or big) moments will help you get through the uncertain ones. As you grow into the role of being a parent, you’ll gain more confidence as you go — and you’ll find that many of your biggest fears won’t even come to fruition.

At The Lactation Network, we provide parents with access to insurance-covered lactation care, often in the comfort of home. Looking for more real parent advice? Check out our blog for more tips for expecting parents on breastfeeding, pumping, creating a breastfeeding plan with the insurance-covered support of an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), and more.

We know what early parenthood is like, and we’ve been there—searching for countless, often conflicting answers online. At The Lactation Network, our International Board Certified Lactation Consultants (IBCLCs) are committed to providing families with trusted, authoritative information about your prenatal-to-weaning journey.

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